I was recently asked for my input for an article in my local newspaper on how I balance being a mom and an entrepreneur – a momtrepreneur, if you will. It is something I have spoken about quite a bit on my blog and in my Instagram posts and it has led me to continue to encourage other women to become entrepreneurial.
When I was typing how I juggle and balance what I do for the local paper, I realized that with everything, there is guilt and it is usually compounded as a mom. There is guilt for what you DO do, guilt for what you don’t do and nothing so much as this realization that what you thought you wanted to do with your career is just something that is no longer as simple as showing up and giving it your all because you are conflicted – you have to give your all to the people you are raising, too and not just to your career anymore.
I think this is also an issue with any caregiver – so even if you do not have kids but you are caring for your parents or caring for your sibling or something – there is this constant push and pull. Even if you are a millennial and you do not care for anyone (yet) there is always the FOMO (fear of missing out) and how that drives some of us to take on more than we can handle.
I remember shortly after I had my first child I was in the mall on a day off and saw so many moms there, too. Everyone was just there to get out and to be around other people, I think – at least, that is what I was there for anyway. I remember wishing that I could come up with something for everyone to be doing or to be able to still balance their lives with a career because all of a sudden it seemed so impossible to me to be going back into my high powered career when I now had this child to care for, too.
It almost is too perfect for words that I am now using my educator skills and my writing skills to promote and provide training on how to be college and career ready. Somewhere in the midst of all of these lessons for the younger professionals among us, I also have lessons and a message for the moms or others who are coming back after having a blank space on their resume. I know that for me the corporate 9-5 just would not work – there are many reasons for this chief among them being I have always been entrepreneurial in nature. As I continue to roll this snowball of my business down a big hill and see where it takes me and how it goes I definitely want to start the dialogue for other moms or people who are coming back after taking time off due to family or personal reasons.
There is so much that can be done with retraining and retooling skill sets to accomplish a return and to balance out the needs of family with the needs of making a financial contribution. This is the crux of it – the work a mom or the stay at home parent does is something that is worth so much but paid nothing. So at some point, we confuse worth with financial gain and struggle with what we are in the eyes of the world. As the kids get bigger, it becomes more of a challenge to start again. So many people who denigrate their skills and talents because they think they are “just a mom”.
I hope to help begin the conversation on changing that – on helping other moms or people who otherwise opted out of the workforce to begin to identify and realize their skills and talents and where they, too, can take their next step. I often help other moms prepare their resume for a hugely discounted price so if you are considering going back to work but do not know where to start, please reach out to me for a discussion around your next step. All consultations are free and I am available anytime at 3477339211.
What do you think? Happy Hunting!
Lisa Vento Nielsen